Lack of direction? Let yourself live some

Dear "Dr. A":

This isn't a question about a relationship or sex, but I was hoping that you might help me.

I guess what I want to say is that I feel really lost. I don't know what to do with my life. My parents seem to think that I should know what I want to do, and be preparing myself for a career.

I just seem to be taking classes with no direction. I haven't found anything yet that really interests me, and I'm just bored with the whole school thing.

So, what do I do? My parents are [angry], and I'm depressed.

I'm stuck. - Stuck

Dear "Stuck":

I'm sure there are financial pressures going on for your parents. Having a child in college is no small expense. They are probably anxious for that to move along.

I also understand your side to this. Perhaps you are trying to do something that you are not quite ready for. You might consider taking a year off and working. After all, sometimes we need time to find ourselves before we can make a decision about what we are going to do with our lives.

I'm wondering if you have had an honest talk with your parents about this. If not, that's a good place to start. You're certainly not alone in this. Don't be hard on yourself - be patient. Live some.

Dear "Dr. A":

Why are boys such dogs? I'm sick of them! - Sick

Dear "Sick":

Sounds like you've been hurt. Perhaps it's time to take a break from "boys," and examine the choices you have been making. After all, the one common denominator in all your relationships with boys is you.

Give yourself some time to just be. Next time a guy comes into your life that you are interested in, ask yourself if he is healthy. Be honest. You'll know.

If he isn't - run.